"Divorce and Remarriage in Light of the Bible" (Baptist Preaching)

Hello Pastor : I have a question and I need guidance. I got married when I was unsaved under the Catholic church with an unsaved man. We were both raised Catholic, I always believed in Jesus, he was much more wordly and not so strong in his faith. I divorced him some years ago ( also before I got saved ) because of financial, physical, emotional abuse. I had a baby and I did not wanted her to witness him getting drunk and hitting me or threatening me. He has anger issues. Two years ago I was saved and fully became a Christian. I have tried to bring my ex-husband to the Bible, to Jesus, asked him to address his anger issues... trying to give him a chance to have a godly family. He has rejected all, he has called me fanatic for reading the Bible to my daughter and he refuses to get out of the Catholic church... and he is actually already dating someone else, and probably they will marry eventually, because he does not know how to be alone and he needs a woman to be there for him. As you well say in your sermons, him being unsaved is a terrible influence on my daughter. I am trying to raise her as Christian but my ex-husband contradicts me a lot. I have come to have peace in my heart about this divorce, and I also understood I was never fully in love with this man but I was bound to him by a toxic relationship of codependence I learnt from my Mother who also accepted my father even if he was cheating on her, mistreating her, etc.

I accept it was MY mistake to have married that man, nobody else´s. I know I made a lot of mistakes before coming to the Lord. I accept the consequences of my mistakes and I pray everyday my daughter is saved too. My question is if I need to remain then single forever. I have no problem with that although I have to be honest it saddens me. I was always afraid to end up alone. However if this must be it, it must be. I rather obey the Lord. But I am unsure about the possibility of meeting and marrying a true Christian, because some people have told me that if you marry as unsaved, then that marriage is not a Christian marriage and is invalid. Again, I did not divorce out of wanting to date other men or any other reason. I was with this man for years taking his abuse so I would not divorce. I had to choose the lesser of two evils as I did not wanted my daughter to learn from his abuse to me and then she would find a man who would abuse her too and think it is normal. Unfortunately now my daughter sees the same behavior of her father, with his new girlfriend, he fights with her in front of my child.

Anyhow, as to my ex husband changing, that is in God´s hands, but I just wanted to ask if I need to ask the Lord then for strenght so he teaches me to accept being alone for the rest of my life and stop wishing to have a godly husband and home. Again I have no problem with accepting the consequences of my actions when I was unsaved.

Thank you Pastor, your sermons have helped me a lot. God Bless.

Just wanted to get some clarification Pastor Anderson. I have not read any scripture that's direct like Luke 16:18, where it states, " the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery" for the single woman. That would help much if you can provide me with one. I have run into lots of brother christians who were divorced by their wives, left by their wives, and they would like to see the scripture that state an unmarried woman can not marry them. I've checked and can not find it. Other verses I've seen you go over cover married women that remarry, none state directly like the following, "if a woman marries a divorced man, she commits adultery." Not tryin to be a smart alex, just would like to make sure it's biblically there for reference. So, to be clear, is there a scripture that states that a single, never before married woman, that marries a man who was left by his wife, commits adultery by doing so. Thanks.

1 corinthians 7:15 can be considered! I was married at age 20 my husband physically beat on me and mental hurt me. The abuse has caused me so much damage I have PTSD. I was even in counseling just 2 years ago it was so bad. I am now 47 I have NEVER remarried. It has been 24 years divorced. He was not a born again believer. He went to church a couple of times when I knew him. I was raised in church and born again. I am being truthful totally. My family believes I can remarry because he was not a believer and Un equally yoked and the abuse i didn't expect. It was so bad the first night of marriage we not consummate the marriage and he abused me mentally and starved me from food when we drove to Colorado to go skiing from where we lived was along way. He called me a bit h because I was crying it was so bad. We both had an affair. I left him because of the abuse but he filed for divorce because he took all the money out of the bank. Even my salary money. I wouldn't have an affair if I had a loving caring mate. I found comfort with another man's company that was older and protective. It wasn't a sexual, just kissing and stuff like that. I know what the scripture say don't be mean and preach at me. But give me the truth, but not judgement is not Godly to hurt me. I am being vulnerable and ask for pastors guidance. BTW my ex husband married the girl he had affair with he married her 6 months to the date. He beat her so bad alot worse than me. I warned her but she didn't believe me now she does she divorced him and remarried. Kind a vice from preacher would be nice.

NO!!! Moses gave command to give a writing of divorcement, not GOD. Jesus desconsidered what Moses did in Mat 19:9 to fulfil what God made from the beginning. Moreover, we know that the Apostle and High Priest of our profession is Christ Jesus and NOT Moses (Hebrews 3).

Excellent teaching. This should go viral.

Jesus never built a baptist Church. Mathew 16:18 He built His new covenant Church on the day of Pentecost. Acts 2. Jesus adds the saved to His Church, no joining His Church Acts 2:47 King James version there is only 1 Church Ephesians 3:4-6 Only 1 faith Acts 2-Revelation 22 Acts 2:42 2 John 9-11 verses John 7:16 Mathew 19:9 is old testament doctrine. Galatians 5:4 Romans 3:19-21 Wake up

Since God divorced Israel for adultery are we are not also allowed to divorce for adultery as well? Or are we held to a higher standard than God? "Porneia" must therefore mean all illicit sex, including fornication and adultery. Otherwise, Jesus would have been commanding us to keep a higher standard than God Himself! Why would pre-marital sex be more damaging to the marriage covenant than adultery? Answer: It wouldn't. The hard liners on this issue are not taking the whole council of God into consideration and are leading many into error and unnecessary pain.

I believe the divorce rate in the church is POSSIBLY due to HOW the question is asked. If you are asking the question in a group of Christians...."How many of you have been divorced.....VERSUS..... How many of you have been divorced SINCE getting giving your hearts and lives to Christ.....the number could be rather large in difference...I would LOVE to see a "study" done on divorced WHEN before/after getting saved.....

I don't care about marriage. Each to their own. for I've seen alot of stupidity and divorce in my life. If you can make it work, than good on you. Its not for everyone. Thought personally, I hate divorce and breakups

Amen.

My church doesn't even give people that fornicate the usual fancy wedding service. A prayer with the pastors makes the marriage official and the couple goes home. It is a form of church discipline designed to discourage fornication and make it a shameful thing.


According to my pastors, people that come forth with the secret sin of fornication and take the church discipline and humbleness and repentance before God, usually end up having a good marriage do to them humbling themselves before God.
God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble...

32:17 the close captions say "adult store"

spouse 1 has sex with stranger. spouse 1 files for divorce. spouse 1 lives with stranger. Spouse 1 gives certificate of divorce to spouse 2. can spouse 2 ever get remarried. ???

I guess he forgot luke 16:18.....

notice after Jesus talks about divorce he embraces the children........most of the time its the kids who lose the most thru divorce and its good to know Jesus hates it.......if the choice is be alone or stay married otherwise you commit adultery most would eventually be reconciled.......how can a man that leaves his family have fellowship with a God that died for his?

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in cases of abuse?

what about king Solomon who had so many wives? Did he commit adultery?

Now what if your wife is pushing for a divorce and you don't want it.  Then you end up getting divorced against your will? Can you still never marry again?

On point. Raw truth.....

Sorry about that, I was running out of time. one preacher said, ( Independent fundamental Baptist, that since he left me, its okay to get remarried, another IFB preacher says it is not OK) I really need some answers because I am very confused. is there a way that I can contact this preacher or he can contact me. I respect what he says but I respect my own pastor as well. I REALLY NEED SOME HELP,! Any suggestions?