Matt Chandler Calls Out Singles

Naa dont think its true this is little irresponsable you dont need a planed but you definetly need and income and where to live an a base plan for at least the first years go to bible don share your experiences as teaching

In other words: men, you need to look for a wife in the friendzone! Five years hence, after you have failed to find a wife, come hear me preach at you about how it's because you are selfish!

Gentlemen, do not listen to men like Matt Chandler on this subject.  None of what he says works, believe me I've tried.

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Matt Chandler just said yo. LOL.

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I agree that it's absurd to try and be completely established and stable, but women don't want a man who isn't. They just don't. You gotta have it all. Or am I just being cynical?

Man I like how simple this guy puts it. This was so comforting and encouraging

I needed this. It makes me smile so big ☺️😄

The entire church culture is built around passivity when it comes to non-marital relationships. Churches want Godly couples, not Godly single men and women. Churches are not in the business of playing matchmaker, nor are they the "fishers of men" they claim to be.

Yeh he who finds a wife! Not a selfish child!!!

Our Blessed Jesus said, “Love thy enemas, and they will love you back”. That may be but...... after my last coffee enema, no one would love my bathroom for all of the fecal matter! Thanks a lot, Jesus ! I've had it with christian men. They are usually into butt slamming and never cleaning up afterwards.

It's good to have a sense of direction but Chandler is right- having it completely together would be someone with an illusion and my instinct, struggling with this myself is them trusting in themselves and not in the Lord, that said, know your own heart.

I don't understand why are people against Matt Chandler. He is just speaking the truth and that's too hard to swallow for some. Get rid of your religious hypocrisy peeps.

This man has wisdom!

I am 50 and my single waiting for the right man thank you this is very helpful

Pursing? The pursuing isn't any good UNLESS the WOMAN also decides to HAVE PARTICIPATION WITH THE MAN in the relationship. If that woman doesn't want to be a friend, than she won't walk into marriage with him. point blank. He has the right woman for me, and it'll be in how he decides, even when I don't "pursue". I'll find a wife in the way he has created me to: I'll be myself in how God created ME, and she'll be attracted to me and I to her. But actually going to Scripture, look at Proverbs 18:22: "Whoever finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord." The key word people love to point out is "find", like the man has to go around and "look" all over the place. This is what has been ingrained in our minds in the church. It's all about us, no, it's about God. But here's the Hebrew word for "find" and it's meaning:


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A primitive root; properly to come forth to, that is, appear or exist; transitively to attain, that is, find or acquire; figuratively to occur, meet or be present: - + be able, befall, being, catch, X certainly (cause to) come (on, to, to hand), deliver, be enough (cause to) find (ing, occasion, out), get (hold upon), X have (here), be here, hit, be left, light (up) on, meet (with), X occasion serve, (be) present, ready, speed, suffice, take hold on.


We're not told to pursue a woman, but God, gentlemen, and ladies. So we can say that "finding the Lord's favor with a wife, she'll be revealed, she'll come forth to the man, will acquire and be present by the Lord's hand." This takes a load off my mind that God has the right one for me, and I'll be right for her in God's favor, God's blessing that only comes from his hand, not by my hard labor, but she'll be worth waiting and working for in how God has created me. I am to be a man who fears the Lord. I don't know about you, but knowing this, makes the wife he has for me all the more precious and valuable to and for me, and I want to be the same for her. Amen.

He is disgusting.

Hmm. The phrase he keeps repeating, about Godly men pursuing Godly women for friendships hoping for marriage, is total garbage. He says it like it's Biblical - it's not. He's not quoting the Bible when he says that. He thinks men should only have friendships with women if they're looking to marry them? No. That is an unhealthy way of viewing friendship, and women. I'm sure he's addressing the problem of not establishing a friendship first, but the way he phrased it is sexist and encourages using people.

I agree that discipling / mentoring others (younger or otherwise) should happen, as a single person or not.

You definitely don't have to be perfect to be married - it will bring out all your imperfections, anyway. My own opinion on the salary critique is that when the focus is on money, you are trusting that money will make your marriage, but not trusting that God will.

are.. you telling me that a 29 year old should have 11 year old friends....? are you also telling me that the human life is not worth living if you don't have a partner? well, here's a "BRAAAND NEW IDEA" there's more to people than just raising fucking kids to serve the same purpose. humans have such a vast mind for a reason. god, i feel so sorry for the women and men that actually listen to this fucktard.